No, women aren't innocent and naive (Part 2)

Hopefully, I succeeded in the previous part to make it clear that when you chat up a woman or even ask her out on a date, you mustn't assume that she doesn't know that you are after sex. She knows you want to fuck her. The only thing she doesn't know is if you are inventive and determined enough to break through her (fake or actual) resistance in a socially acceptable manner. (I will come later to why she will resist, why any woman will resist in the first place.)

Needless to say, the same applies when you ask her over or when she invites you to come over. You tell her you have a really very cute cat, would she like to see it, and she says: yes, I'd love to. You smile to yourself, thinking how lucky you are that she is gullible enough to not realise your true intentions. For the rest of the evening, you keep calculating in your head when will be the right moment to reveal your sexual interest in her so as to not scare her off by letting the proverbial cat out of the sack when she is not yet "ready". (The feminists keep telling us that women do things only when they are ready, so we men spend insane amounts of effort trying to catch that magical moment when she is "ready".) The shocking truth is – from the moment the two of you agreed on a date (if not before), she has been calculating in her head when you will make your move and what it will be like. Mind you, all I'm saying is you can be certain she has been thinking about it. I am not saying she necessarily wants it. Although they do much more often than we think. As someone said: "If you are wondering if you should, chances are she is wondering why you don't."

Most seduction teachers pay a lot of attention to the signs of attractions. Those are largely irrelevant. Noticing signs of attraction tickles our pride, but they mustn't really affect our strategy. Meaning, even when there are no signs of attraction, it doesn't mean you should back off or something. And even when the signs of attraction are clearly noticeable, you still can't just grab her tits. Be the signs of attraction present or absent, you still have to do pretty much the same thing. You have to conquer her in a non-aggressive, yet confident and unrelenting way.

Your strategy and the woman's attraction signals relate to each other pretty much like the Red Army and the landmines. The WW2 Soviet generals openly admitted that they didn't worry about minefields. Even when they knew there was one in their way, they didn't bother with finding it or even disarming the mines. They just ordered their soldiers to advance as if the minefield was not there. Part of the soldiers got killed, the rest went through. It's the same thing with conquering a woman. Even when you can observe no signs of attraction, you still advance, and keep advancing until you have reached your goal. When there are signs of attraction, it's a good thing, but the only thing it means is that she is likely to surrender faster. Your basic strategy is the same, regardless of signs of attraction.

So, how do we overcome her resistance without giving up, yet without getting ourselves in trouble?

Do you know the Chinese martial art called Wing Tsun? It is an external soft martial art that teaches that you must never counter force with force. At the same time you never retreat. You advance. Should you meet no resistance, you simply break through, that is, injure the enemy. Should you meet resistance, you move sideways and continue advancing. You never try to break through the enemy defence with force, yet you never move backwards. The only movements are forward and sideways.

I have found that the basic principles of Wing Tsun describe exactly the optimal strategy when seducing a woman. You do something to her. She says no. You immediately cease the (ostensibly) offending activity. You don't argue. You show no sign of displeasure. And an instant later you continue your offensive in a different way. As soon as she objects to whatever you're doing, you stop doing it and continue with a different approach, as if nothing was wrong. You continue trying out one method after another until she ceases to object.

Specifically, what is it that you should do? That depends on what kind of a person you are. Some men are very glib talkers. Me, I'm a lousy talker. Some men are able to come up with a trick or a game or a non-serious bet that will give them an excuse to get physical. For me, I have discovered that the best approach is simply to start caressing her in non-offensive places, such as the back or arms. Women have told me that I am very good with my hands. You will have to try and find out what works for you, but I would totally recommend taking a massage class. I don't know if you have any idea how horny a perfectly innocent back and legs massage can make a person. (And, as I hardly need to remind you, the buttocks are located right between those two.)

The feminists Louis and Copeland say in the preface to their famous book that you must always respect (or was it "honor"?) a woman's "no". That is an incredibly stupid thing to do. You must never break through a woman-to-be-seduced's reluctance with physical force, but neither must you ever respect or honour her "no" – that is, if you want to get to fuck her. Whatever you are doing, you interrupt your advance upon her "no" (a sideways move), and a second later you will unperturbedly continue to advance in some other way (a forward move from another angle). Like, I had accompanied a woman into her hotel room after a date, and we were in the bed. I was (of course) naked. She had stripped down to her bra and panties, but she wouldn't take them off. She kept telling me that she was not going to have sex with me. I just kept touching her up. When she brushed my hand away from her breasts, I touched her down there, and when she brushed my hand away, I touched her breasts, and so on, until she finally stripped naked, and she even sucked my dick. Now, at that moment when she finally gave up her resistance, I wasn't doing anything special. I just kept doing what I had been doing, until her, as it were, reservoire of reluctance had ran dry. Of course her nonwillingness to have sex had been a pretense from the beginning.

I am sure that every man who has seduced several women has stories like this to tell. Many men are much more persistent (as well as much more successful) than I am. The methods of siege differ from case to case. They may be physical or verbal. But the basic principle of seduction is the same: to overcome her resistance act in such a way that she won't feel abused.

Now, I think the explanation is overdue as to why the woman always resists, even when she actually wants to have sex with you, even when she has actually arranged for the two of you to be together in private. That will be the topic of the next part of this article.

[To be continued]